As we get older, many areas of our life begin to change, especially our libido. Many of us are not nearly engaging in as much intimacy as we once did in our younger years. Some may convince themselves that this is a normal part of aging, while others are worried it could be a more serious sign. But how are you supposed to know whether your libido is normal or not?
Well, for starters, there’s no such thing as normal. Each person is different and has different needs, so how can we categorize libido as normal or not?
This is why it’s so dangerous to fall into the trap of answering quizzes that reveal whether or not your libido is normal. Sure, these types of quizzes can be entertaining and provide you some insight, but with so many factors that go into sex, there is no way some multiple-choice questions are able to tell you if you’re “normal” or not.
Thinking about sex and libido as normal or not normal is a very old-school mentality that ignores how progressive the world has become.
Additionally, feeling you’re inadequate with your libido is a serious libido killer. We all know that sex has a mental aspect to it, and if your mind is clouded with thoughts of normalcy, how can you get in the mood?
Libido is ever-changing — it’s situational. It’s not something constantly present and it comes and goes as it needs to based on the situation. Maybe you’re going through a stressful time, then it’s “normal” that your libido is low. On the other hand, some people combat stress with more sex, and frankly, that would be normal too. It’s all about how you choose to deal with your daily life.
Now, in some cases, changes in libido are not normal, and this is when it can be linked to another factor such as medications or medical conditions. These tend to be out of your control, so working with your doctor can help you resolve these issues.
If you’re concerned about your libido, think about your happiness. Are you happy with your libido? Are you getting adequate and fulfilling sex? If yes, then that is your normal. If not, then it may be something worth working at.