Many of us don’t discuss our sex lives, so when problems occur, we are often left in the dark trying to figure it out.
Sex changes as we age. Our needs and wants change and how we perform sex and experience it changes too.
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There is nothing wrong speaking to a therapist regarding your sex problems. Just as you would see a doctor if you didn’t feel well or visit your mechanic if your car broke down, you should see someone regarding your sex-related issues as well.
Sex therapists are well trained to handle and assist with any sex-related issue brought up to them, so they’re a professional source to get down to your problem. It may be challenging to see a therapist, which is why we’re presenting some common sex-related issues to you along with how you can resolve them. But always remember, if there is an issue that you need help with and want to work through, then a sex therapist is your best bet.\
Common Sex Problems and How to Solve Them
Low libido: Maybe you’re suffering from a low sex drive and you just don’t feel in the mood. A large culprit for this, especially among older adults, is medications. There are many medications that can contribute to low libido including hormonal medications, antidepressants, opiates, and even antihistamines. If medications are the cause of your low libido, you may want to speak to your doctor about alternatives they can recommend.
Sex is a routine and feels boring: The longer you’ve been with your partner, the more routine your sex life can feel. Although it’s good to know what your partner likes, it’s also wise to change things up and not just go through the same old motions to achieve the same result. Having open communication between you and your partner can also open the path to new and adventurous types of sex.
You don’t have time for sex: By the time you work, complete household chores, and finish up all your other responsibilities life throws your way, there doesn’t seem to be time for sex. Although you can’t drop your responsibilities, you can actively try to incorporate sex back into your life. There is nothing wrong with planning time for sex the same way you’d plan for other events and tasks. Maybe it can be a weekly or bi-weekly thing.
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You lack a connection with your partner: For some couples, although they’re having sex, they are lacking a connection. You may want to incorporate more foreplay into your sex life as a means of connecting. You may also try to be more romantic throughout the week or day leading up to sex in order to build desire.
If there are more serious underlying issues that are becoming a roadblock for the two of you connecting, then you will want to work through those issues. Once again, speaking to a therapist can greatly help.
Also read: How intimacy changes as you age
Emily Lunardo studied medical sociology at York University with a strong focus on the social determinants of health and mental illness. She is a registered Zumba instructor, as well as a Canfit Pro trainer, who teaches fitness classes on a weekly basis. Emily practices healthy habits in her own life as well as helps others with their own personal health goals. Emily joined Bel Marra Health as a health writer in 2013.
