Many of us don’t talk about sex in our golden years, as it is often believed that sex basically ceases to exist for seniors. But this is very much not true. There are many seniors over the age of 60 with an active sex life so if you aren’t one of them, what’s your excuse?
There are many reasons why seniors may not be partaking in sex. From medical conditions to disability to conflicting schedules, there are many areas of life that can simply get in the way. And sex, as with everything else, tends to change as we age. The problem is because there is little discussion of these changes, seniors may feel too embarrassed to address any of their concerns, or maybe they are just unaware of the changes altogether and so they feel abnormal.
Although sex after 60 changes, it doesn’t mean it has to stop existing altogether. Once you understand these changes, you can work on reigniting that spark and become sexually active one again. Below you will find some truths that maybe no one has ever told you about sex after 60.
How sex changes after 60
Sex doesn’t expire: Just because you are 60 doesn’t mean you can’t have sex. In fact, just like a fine wine, sex and intimacy gets better with age, so if you aren’t having sex after 60 then you could be missing out on the best sex of your life. If you’ve previously enjoyed sex, then odds are that you will continue to enjoy it after 60.
How you define “good” sex may change: When you and your partner were younger, you probably had more wild and adventurous sex. Maybe a quickie before work? In the backseat of the car? Or back-to-back marathons while on vacation? Even though you may not be having that type of sex anymore, it doesn’t mean sex is still not “good.” How you define good sex will change now that you’re older, and although you may not be switching into several positions, sometimes simpler is better.
Physical problems can be overcome: Even if you experience physical changes, such as the ones that occur during menopause, the challenges they present can still be overcome so you can continue to enjoy sex—you may just need a little help. If you’re a woman and you find you’re a bit drier down there, then speak to your doctor about safe lubricants you can use to reduce painful friction. If you’re a man and you are having difficulties with your erection, you can also speak to your doctor about the cause of your problem and potential treatment methods.
It may take longer to climax: But that’s okay! Sure, your bed sessions may take longer now, but you don’t need to rush to the finish line. If you’ve been with your partner for many years, then the lines of communication should be wide open so both of you can express what feels best to get you both to finish. Working on foreplay can help speed up the end result.
You have more time: And what should you be doing with all this extra time? Having sex, of course! Now that you and your partner are older and possibly retired, sex doesn’t have to be only a nighttime event. In fact, why not have a lunchtime treat? Or even a breakfast delight! Spicing up your sex life in this way can make sex more enjoyable for the both of you.
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